Top Ten lists are popular, but I would prefer to present you with sets of sevens. Seven is an auspicious number in many cultures, including Tibetan Buddhism. Instead of Tips or Suggestions, see these as Blessings: things that not only help but bless you, the ones you care for, and the creator as well.
Thanks to my uncle, who wishes to remain anonymous, and who was a caregiver for my aunt for eight years. My aunt was in hospice at home with him for six months. He describes her death as a “heavy heavy experience.” But he also recalls precious moments with her that continue to comfort him. Many of these blessings are from him; others are from my own experience.
I give these to you for free; print them and take them with you to work or to your doctor visit. I invite you to add your own suggestions of things to say or do. Share them and they can be blessings for all of us.
Seven Blessings for Caregivers
Free to print out and read if you’re feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or burned out but caring for someone who is dying or seriously ill or disabled.
Seven Blessings for Doctor Visits
Free to print out and take to your next appointment. Better yet, read it over beforehand and plan for your visit accordingly.
Seven Blessings for Working With Dementia Patients
Free to print out and review before you go to your next caregiving session with a dementia patient. In particular, pay attention to grants for long-term care and memory care units.